by Allyson Mable

If your girl just broke up with you chances are that you are broken hearted. You don’t just have to sit around and deal with your broken heart though; you can take action and try to get your ex girlfriend back! Why should you simply let her walk out of your life without at least trying to keep her? You may be able to rectify the situation and get her back in your life.

Look into your heart and if you want to get her back, decide to do just that. If you are serious about it, you need to look at the relationship and try to discern what went wrong. If you aren’t sure, ask her. Tell her that you want to know all of the things that made her unhappy enough to leave. While this may be difficult, it is the only way you are going to learn how to change and avoid doing the things that caused the breakdown of the relationship the first time around.

When you know what really went wrong you can look at yourself, your ex girlfriend, and the relationship and decide how things can be different. Are the things that made her unhappy things that you can change? Can you be happy while changing these things for her? If you can change and still be who you are, you may be able to salvage the relationship.

You want to start out slow. You should start by just calling your ex girlfriend and talking to her about how things are going. Let her know that you care about her and just wanted to check in on her. Keep the calls short and sweet and don’t call every day, perhaps once a week.

Send her a bouquet of her favorite flowers or her favorite candy. It doesn’t have to be anything that costs a lot, just send it, and if you want to make her excited than you can send it anonymously, she might like that! This will be how you begin to woo her and get her back.

Give it another week and write to her. Explain what you are doing to change things and be the person that she needs you to be. Detail what you are doing to change and how you would like to be a part of her life still. Don’t make it a letter begging her to come back, make it about the changes that you are undergoing and that you hope to share them with her.

Give her a few days after the letter before you contact her again. At this point, send her an email or give her a call and ask her out to get ice cream or a cup of coffee. If she accepts, chances are that she is willing to consider the relationship again. If she doesn’t, you may need to give her a bit more time or accept that the relationship is really over.

If you do go out with her, make sure that you treat her well. If you know she likes doors opened and wants you to hold her hand, do these little things. These little things mean the most and it will show her that you are serious about making her happy.

While you are out together you should be on your best behavior. Behave like yourself, but just show her that you are capable of good treatment toward her. Make her laugh and smile at her, remind her of the warm times you have spent together. Make sure that you have a very open conversation about ho you feel. Apologize if you need to for your past mistakes and make her aware of just how serious you are about having her back in your life. Share your hopes and dreams about the future with her and invite her to do the same. This may be a good time to get a look at how she really feels!

At this point you will have a good indication of whether she will take you back. If she does, make sure that you follow through on all of the things that you told her you would do. Relationships all go through good times and bad times, the idea is that you learn from your mistakes and that you stay true to your word so she can have faith in you.

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